I’ve been extremely quiet on here over the last month or so. I returned back to work after maternity leave at the beginning of January and have been busy trying to find our new routine.
I’m incredibly lucky that I’m working part-time and on slightly less hours than I was doing when I returned to work after having Harley (I used to do three days and now I do two and a half). I’m able to do Harley’s preschool drop offs/pick-ups three and a half days a week and get to spend two full days with Ada, which is amazing. And even luckier that bar one after-school club session for Harley, both kids are with their grandparents when I’m at work so logistics are much more simple.
My team at work are amazing, they’re incredibly supportive and everybody welcomed me back with open arms. And I feel like I’ve slotted right back in, it’s almost like I’ve never been gone, so that has made my transition back to working mum life a lot easier.
However, I am in desperate need to get my shit together. I am a born perfectionist. I’m a Virgo, it’s in my make-up. As much as I tell myself that the housework isn’t important and having a tidy, organised file of paperwork isn’t the be-all-and-end-all, it stresses me out when it’s not the way I like it.
The things I’m trying to do:
- Write lists. Lots of them. My list book now goes everywhere with me. I’ve always been a list writer but now I have a list for everything. It’s a bit extreme but it’s the only way I actually get stuff done. Also the feeling of ticking things off on that list leaves me feeling so accomplished.
- Being kind to my future self. I’m trying to be more organised in the evenings before a work day – making sure the kids bags are packed, the house is in a tidy-ish state and I’ve got my outfit and bag sorted for the next day.
- Read. So don’t judge me but I had never read or watched a Harry Potter film until a couple of weeks ago. It just didn’t really interest me but recently one of my besties lent me the first book and I’m hooked. I’m attempting to put my phone down every night when I get into bed and read a chapter. I’m not succeeding every night but it’s definitely helping me to wind down.
- Making the most of my time. I don’t want to sound like a whinger, I am incredibly lucky to have two wonderful children and I wouldn’t change my life for the world but sometimes the reality of literally not have a second to myself until they’re in bed at night is a bit overwhelming. I’m now trying to find those moments in the day where there’s time to get more done. Listening to podcasts in the car on the way to work, fitting an hour of work in whilst I wait outside of Harley’s theatre class; basically just anything so the time I spend with the kids is quality time.
- Meal planning. Where I can, I meal plan. Well there’s a slogan. As part of my list writing I’ve now started writing huge shopping lists and planning our meals for the week. Tom has to do the children’s dinners three nights a week now when I’m at work so it helps him out too.
- Drinking all the tea. Tea is my thing. I feel like it’s the answer to everything. 4am wake-up (thanks Ada) = cup of tea. Stressed out about the house = cup of tea. Tea solves everything.
In all honesty, I’m really enjoying being back at work. I love going into the office and being able to get my teeth into something but equally love being at home with my babies and having all the cuddles. I’m on my way to finding my balance and now (TOUCHWOOD) Ada is almost sleeping through the whole night I’m feeling more human.
I’m also ready to get back into the flow of blogging on here. I’ve got so many ideas so in the most non-cringey way, watch this space.
The Aspiring Yummy Mummy. x